Here’s a great perspective from a story by Jack Canfield. A fly was desperately trying to get out from a closed windowpane. From the inside, it can see the flowers and trees and blue sky. But however it tries, it cannot break free. A few feet from the window is an open door that leads to the outside garden but the fly was too fixated on exiting through the glass pane. If you have tried really hard and not getting what you want, maybe you’re doing it wrong. Don’t be a fly. Find that open door!